Showing posts with label relaxation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relaxation. Show all posts

February 7, 2022

Mindfulness is the New Black



Like orange is the new black, mindfulness may be the new psychotherapy.

Talking to a licensed therapist can be a critical step to wellness.  It can include sharing problems, worries, and yes, those reliable and messy mainstays, family of origin issues. Getting evaluated by a professional can be one of the most important tools for treating anxiety, depression, and other emotional disorders.

Learning cognitive behavioral tools ( CBT ) is another branch on the tree called getting back to wellness. One of the most up-and-coming, state-of-the-art CBT tools is mindfulness.  Thirty years ago, when I was walking my dinosaur on my college campus, mindfulness was not echoed in the hallowed halls of learning.  I'm not sure it was even a thing back then.  But it certainly is now.

Mindfulness is a form of meditation.  It is the art and skill of redirecting one's mind away from the everyday thoughts, worries, judgments, and distractions that occupy our brain when it's on auto-pilot. Where are my keys? Did I take the load of laundry out of the dryer? Don't forget to return those pants, pick up that prescription, talk to my professor, get the car inspected.   "Monkey mind" is what Dr. Alejandro Junger, M.D., cardiologist, calls collectively, all those pesky thoughts. 

Today we all have a new worry: the pandemic. To protect us from Covid-19, many new restrictions are in place.  Mask wearing, vaccinations, avoiding unfamilliar people and crowded outdoor spaces.  Mindfulness can be used as a stress reduction tool. Try this mindfulness video, here, let by Dr. Robert Hindman, a clinical psychologist with the Beck Institute*.  

For more ideas on how to learn about and practice mindfulness, have a look at Harvard University Medical School's suggestions, here.    Because maybe, just maybe, fifteen minutes a day is the new 60 minutes on the couch.



*The Beck Institute was founded by Aaron T. Beck, MD, largely considered the father of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) and his daughter, Judith Beck, Phd. 

Sandy Andrews, Ph.D. Psychologist
Teaching CBT in South Austin, Texas


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May 1, 2020

Mental Noting in Meditation



Typically, a person's first attempt at meditating is extremely frustrating. The mind wanders, they realize they've become distracted, they try to come back to their breath... Then, their mind wanders off again, maybe for a few minutes, until they realize they've become distracted yet again, and feelings of anger arise. These feelings of anger leave many people feeling defeated.

It's common for people to give up during the beginning stages of meditation. Expecting to be thought-free and tranquil, the fear of failure creeps in. The expectation of failure.

However, it's crucial for beginners to know that this experience is not only common, but also part of the process. If anything, meditation is supposed to bring attention to how easily distracted the mind can be. Getting past this frustration and into the rhythm of meditation takes practice, patience, and a lot of self compassion.

One technique that helps to reduce frustration and distraction is called mental noting. During meditation, thoughts and feelings will inevitably arise. To remind yourself that these thoughts and feelings are normal, and to notice and label them as they appear, helps you reach a meditative state.

Andy Puddicombe, who developed the app called headspace, explains the concept of mental noting in the video linked HERE. A close connection of mine recommends the dozens of free guided meditations that Andy's app provides for free.

April 2, 2018

Even on the Sidewalks of NYC

In broad daylight, a person can relax and meditate:



For more on-the-street photography, you can visit Brandon's website,  Humans of New York.

May 18, 2015

Meditation Basics



Meditation is the new black.  CBT psychologists are finding that meditation is good for decreasing anxiety and stress, boosting the immune system, falling asleep, healthier management of physical illnesses, improving memory, all sorts of benefits.

Try this guided meditation to go beyond the basics, here.

--Sandy Andrews, PhD 
Clinical Psychologist
Austin, TX 

September 8, 2013

Can't Unwind? Progressive Muscle Relaxation

Often our bodies hold stress in the form of tense or tight muscles.  In other words, physical tension is caused by muscle constriction.  This tightening of the muscles occurs when we experience either short term, in-the-moment stress (a short-lived frightening experience such as a violent storm) or long term stress (such as unrelenting work overload or taking care of an aging parent).

The long term form of stress, if left unattended, can lead to chronic muscle tightness that doesn't let up.  These muscles can remain tense all through out the day for weeks on end without us being aware. The tightness can even hold fast while we sleep (which can explain some early-morning headaches, for example, or feeling exhausted upon awakening). Chronic muscle constriction is associated with tissue inflammation, muscle strains and spasms as well as more serious, long term illnesses.

Many who experience long term stress and muscle tension are unable to simply relax their muscles, try as they may.  One exercise, called Progressive Muscle Relaxation (also known as Deep Muscle Relaxation) helps ease that I-can't-seem-to-relax muscle tension.

In the following selected videos, a voice guides you through a systematic form of tensing and relaxing muscles.   A quieting of the mind typically follows relaxed muscles.  The first video by Dr. LuAnn Helms, introduces the exercise with an explanation of how PMR can be helpful.

 Video by Dr. LuAnn Helms (Psychologist) of Utah State University's Counseling and Psychological Services

Video by University of New Hampshire

Notes:
1.  Do each muscle group twice; five second tense, fifteen seconds relax.  Always relax the muscles longer than the tightening.
2.  You may want to skip tensing eye muscles into a frown - some find this produces headache sensations.  Instead, think about lifting your forehead muscles toward the ceiling in a muscle-smoothing fashion.  In fact, skip tensing any muscle groups that cause pain.
3. Remember to focus on the feeling of quiet, calm, relaxation when you shift from the tightening of the muscle group to relaxing.





-Sandy Andrews, Ph.D.
CBT Cognitive Behavioral Psychologist 
Austin, Texas

July 24, 2013

Meditating with Visual Aids



Think about changing the channel that' plays mindlessly in your head.  Change your thoughts away from the thousands of stress inducing thoughts that permeate your thinking toward calm, pleasant, physically soothing thoughts and you can take your body toward a more physically healthy space.

One way to do this is with visual aids.  In this case, pictures of highly pleasurable scenes.

Take a look at the pictures posted on Bored Panda, below.   Take time to really let the images sink in.  Enhance the experience by taking long, slow inhales followed by long, full exhales, while you will your body to relax with each exhale, while simultaneously enjoying the pictures.

22 Unbelievable Places that are Hard to Believe Really Exist

 Let your mind luxuriate in the sensations you might feel if you were actually present in the picture.  Imagine the sounds you might hear, the smells.  What might you see in the scene if the picture were expanded to include what is behind you?

Pictures of beauty found in the nature are highly inspirational to me.  They help me refresh and appreciate the world around me.  Others find works created by visual artists inspiring:  paintings, collage, sculpture.

What inspires you?  What kinds of images do you find pleasurable, refreshing, or relaxing?  

January 28, 2013

A Murmur was Seen Through the Crowd

The crowd of birds, that is.  Starlings, to be specific.

I can't get enough of the videos gone viral of bird murmuration.  The most dramatic to me is the first one I ever saw.  It was captured by canoe paddlers Sophie Windsor Clive and Liberty Smith.




With so much news on the television about tragedy caused by nature, I find my faith in the natural way of things restored when I watch birds flying in a sort of random harmony.  When it's put to calming music, it becomes something of a meditation.


Last one:


August 4, 2012

Give Me Five ... Minutes of Meditation, That Is

In this fast-paced society we city folks dwell in, we're often searching for quick fixes.  While it is usually true that meaningful change requires significant time and energy, meditating five minutes a day can be an effective tool in easing a host of problems that effect those of us living in the rush-rush workaday world.

Meditation has long been advocated to help quiet the mind and improve focus.  In the past few years a variety of experts have begun to recommend, and numerous studies suggest, that mediation can be helpful in reducing stress, anxiety and depression as well as help heal or ease the symptoms of many physical illnesses including high blood pressure, inflammation and chronic pain.

But what is meditation?  Many people automatically picture an isolated monk seated pretzel style in a dark, spare room with candles and a large gong.  While there are certainly meditation practices resembling this stereotype, today's post is geared toward familiarizing readers with simpler and shorter forms of meditation that can be incorporated into a typical, time-pressed day.  Meditation, in short, for the hurried, anti-gurus among us.

Below are links to descriptive posts and videos that you may find useful in your quest to learn simple, effective meditation practices that can fit into any busy schedule.

Five Minute Meditation Introduced

Chris Walker calls himself The Anti Guru Guru.  He advocates no-frills meditation. Having practiced long hours of study in India he claims he gets more benefit from paring down his meditation practice to five-minute sessions.  Check out his post, here.

Dr. Alejandro Junger, M.D., cardiologist, discusses the role of stress on the mind and body.  In this video, he talks about the role of constant, automatic thoughts produced by our busy, overloaded brains (monkey mind) and the effectiveness of meditation in relieving physical damage caused by these and other forms of harmful stress.  Along with a video explanation, Dr. Junger gives step by step directions for practicing a five-minute meditation.

Meditation Videos to Get Started

Below is a video of a guided five-minute meditation.  Soothing pictures, music and a calming voice guide you through a simple meditative exercise.  You can view the video, here, or simply push the  white triangle start button below and view right from my blog:



To enlarge the meditation video, simply press the small square shaped symbol at the far right of the bottom black bar.  To return to this smaller size video, press the Escape key or click on that same square symbol.

This video features Deepak Chopra talking you through a gentle, nature-themed meditation.



Three Minute Rejuvenation Meditation

Five minutes sounds too long?  How about a three minute video?  In this video a woman guides you through quiet breathing and relaxing instructions.



If you prefer to try a meditation without being guided, this Breathe - 3 Minute Meditation video provides kaleidoscopic pictures and soothing music.



Meditation for the Darting Mind

If you are feeling up to the challenge of an 11-minute or even a 31-minute meditation, take a look at this video demonstrating Kirtan Kriya Meditation.  This yoga meditation involves vocalizations synchronized with finger movements which may be especially effective for people whose minds wander during more standard meditation exercises.

As this post illustrates, there are many paths toward meditating.  While longer meditation sessions are believed to produce deeper and more health engendering forms of relaxation, many find that short meditation exercises are not only time saving but also effective, especially when done on a daily basis (several times per day, even better).

These videos and links are chosen as examples not as any definitive or preferred method.  Different meditation experiences appeal to different people.  The important thing is for you to find a method that works for you: that produces feelings of calm, quiet and peace-of-mind.  Try exploring several of the meditation videos posted on YouTube or your favorite online video site.  Experiment with different styles and then practice on your own.  It will probably take time and repeat practice to achieve the desired effect.  And by practice I mean trying again and again until you feel your mind grow lighter and your thoughts slower and your muscles relax fully.

October 8, 2010

Getting the Sleep You Need: Tips for a Better Night's Rest



Getting a good night's sleep is an integral part of mental health. When we get too few hours of sleep or wake up feeling as though we haven't had enough rest, especially on a regular basis, our emotional and physical wellbeing can suffer dramatically.  Too many sleep deprived nights and we are at risk for depression, panic disorder, and persistent insomnia, to name a few long term problems.  Below are many changes and sleep hygiene tips often recommended to those struggling to get to sleep.

TIPS FOR BETTER DAYTIME HABITS

Do not nap during the day - you will throw off your body clock and make it even more difficult to sleep at night. If you are feeling especially tired, and feel as if you absolutely must nap, be sure to sleep for less than 30 minutes, early in the day.

Limit caffeine, alcohol and nicotine. Avoid drinking caffeine or alcoholic beverages for several hours before bedtime. Although alcohol may initially act as a sedative, it can interrupt normal sleep patterns. Nicotine is a stimulant and can make it difficult to fall asleep and stay asleep. Many over-the-counter and prescription drugs disrupt sleep, especially decongestants (examples: Sudafed, phenylpropanolamine).

Expose yourself to bright light/sunlight soon after awakening. This will help to regulate your body's natural biological clock. Likewise, try to keep your bedroom dark while you are sleeping so that the light will not interfere with your rest.

Exercise early in the day. Twenty to thirty minutes of exercise every day can help you sleep, but be sure to exercise in the morning or afternoon. Exercise stimulates the body and aerobic activity before bedtime may make falling asleep more difficult.

Check your iron level. Iron deficient women tend to have more problems sleeping, so if your blood is iron poor, a supplement might help your health and your ability to sleep.

TIPS FOR A BETTER PLACE TO SLEEP

Keep your bedroom peaceful and comfortable. Make sure your room is well ventilated and the temperature consistent. And try to keep it quiet. You could use a fan or a "white noise" machine to help block outside noises.

Your bed. Make sure your bed is large enough, and comfortable. If you are disturbed by a restless bedmate, switch to a queen- or king-size bed. Test different types of mattresses. Try therapeutic shaped foam pillows that cradle your neck or extra pillows that help you sleep on your side. Get comfortable cotton sheets.

Your bedroom. Make your bedroom primarily a place for sleeping. It is not a good idea to use your bed for paying bills, doing work, watching tv, etc. Help your body recognize that this is a place for rest or intimacy.

Your clock. Hide it. A big, illuminated digital clock may lead you to watch the time. You end up feeling stressed and anxious worrying about how many hours sleep you will, or will not, get. Place your clock so you can't see the time when you are in bed.

TIPS FOR A BETTER PRE-SLEEP RITUAL

Keep a regular schedule. Try to go to bed and wake up at the same time everyday, even on the weekends. This will help your body expect sleep at the same time each day. Don’t oversleep to make up for a poor night’s sleep – doing that for even a couple of days can reset your body clock and make it hard for you to get to sleep at night.

Turn down the lighting in the evening. The closer you are to bedtime, avoid bright or blinking lights. Late night internet browsing is a big cause of insomnia. If you must use the computer at night, turn down the contrast button on your monitor. The television and video games are other sources of blinking lights that disrupt your body's ability to move toward sleep mode.

Relax for a while before going to bed. Spending quiet time can make falling asleep easier. This may include meditation, relaxation and/or breathing exercises, or taking a warm bath. Try listening to recorded relaxation or guided imagery programs.

Incorporate bedtime rituals. Establish a routine. Turn down the lights, listen to soft music, sip a cup of herbal tea (caffeine free), put on PJ's, brush teeth, wash face, etc., A routine cues your body that it's time to slow down and begin to prepare for sleep.

Don’t eat a large, heavy meal before bed. This can cause indigestion and interfere with your normal sleep cycle. Try to eat your dinner at least two hours before bedtime.

Light bedtime snacks can help. An amino acid called tryptophan, found in milk, turkey, and peanuts, helps the brain produce serotonin, a chemical that helps you relax. Try drinking warm milk or eating a slice of toast with peanut butter or a bowl of cereal before bedtime. Plus, the warmth of the food may temporarily increase your body temperature and the subsequent drop may hasten sleep. Light carbohydrates can help. Crackers in bed, anyone?

Jot down your concerns and worries. Anxiety excites the nervous system, so your brain sends messages to the adrenal glands, making you more alert. Write down your worries and possible solutions before you go to bed, so you don't need to ruminate in the middle of the night. A journal or "to do" list may be very helpful in letting you put away these concerns until the next day when you are fresh.

Go to sleep when you are sleepy. When you feel tired, go to bed.

Avoid "over-the-counter" medication sleep aids, and make sure that your prescribed medications do not cause insomnia. Over-the-counter "sleep aids" can be effective in the short term but can lead to long term, harder to treat cases of insomnia. In some cases, there are safety concerns. Antihistamine sleep aids, in particular, have a long duration of action and can cause daytime drowsiness. Always talk to your doctor or healthcare practitioner about your concerns.

Nutritional supplements. Check with your doctor, pharmacist or health care professional before trying nutritional supplements. Some people find that a relaxing, natural sleep aid does wonders.  A list of five supplements commonly recommended for insomnia can be found here.  

TIPS FOR GETTING BACK TO SLEEP

Try guided meditation and/or visualization. Focus all your attention on your toes or visualize walking down an endless stairwell. Imagine yourself in your favorite vacation spot. Use all your senses: imagine what you can see, feel, taste, smell, and touch. Thinking about repetitive or mindless things will help your brain to shut down and adjust to sleep. There are many guided mediations available online.  Meditation Oasis is a great resource.  Lots of meditation podcasts to choose from.  You will never regret learning to quiet your inner mind. 

Try deep breathing for relaxation. Focus on full inhales followed by emptying exhales. Repeat calming statements upon exhales, such as, “I feel peaceful” and “I am floating” and "I can let myself feel calm."  Make up your own.  Breathing exercises can be found here.  For added help, watch and practice deep muscle relaxation (aka, progressive muscle relaxation), here.  

Get out of bed if unable to sleep. Don’t lie in bed awake. Go into another room and do something relaxing until you feel sleepy. Reading something quiet, calming and a little on the boring side is best. Worrying about falling asleep actually keeps many people awake. We call that insomnia about insomnia. 

Don't do anything stimulating. Don't read anything job-related or watch a stimulating TV program (commercials and news shows tend to be alerting) or read an intense thriller. Don't expose yourself to bright light. The light gives cues to your brain that it is time to wake up.

Consider changing your bedtime. If you are experiencing sleeplessness or insomnia consistently, think about going to bed later so that the time you spend in bed is spent sleeping. If you are only getting five hours of sleep at night, figure out what time you need to get up and subtract five hours (for example, if you want to get up at 6:00 am, go to bed at 1:00 am). This may seem counterproductive and, at first, you may be depriving yourself of some sleep, but it can help train your body to sleep consistently while in bed. When you are spending all of your time in bed sleeping, you can gradually sleep more, by adding 15 minutes at a time.

July 16, 2010

15 Steps to Better Mental Health


Walking in the Rain


Yet another excellent post by Dr. Deb -- A list of 15 Tips for Mental Fitness that she found on a University of Washington publication. It's such a great list, in fact, I had to post it here:


1. Learn to Relax
Allow yourself to let go of inner tensions by giving yourself a “mini vacation.” Give your mind a break by becoming engrossed in a good book, watching a movie, listening to music, taking a walk, working on a hobby, meditating or similar activity that is relaxing for you.

2. Be Kind To YourselfPeople are frequently too hard on themselves when things don’t go right. Tune into your self talk, and counteract your negative thoughts about yourself with positive statements.

3. Eat ProperlyNutrition has a direct impact on feeling mentally positive. Limit your intake of sugar, fat, salt, caffeine and alcohol and help yourself stay mentally fit.

4. Find A Friend
Friendships are very important to mental fitness. Working on developing and maintaining friendships is one of the best ways to continue growing as a person. Expressing feelings and ideas to another person can help us clarify what’s truly important to ourselves.

5. Learn to Say “No”Often people feel the need to respond immediately when a friend or family member make a request. Help yourself set limits by avoiding the quick “knee jerk” response in the affirmative. Instead, let them know you will get back to them shortly. Then do a check of your schedule; ask yourself if you really want to add to your load. Give yourself permission to say “No” when you are too busy to take on additional commitments of your time or energy.

6. ExerciseCheck with your doctor about what level is best for you. Even a brisk 15-minute walk, three times a week does wonders for how you think and feel.

7. Do It NowProcrastination can lead to negative feelings about yourself. One doesn’t have to go to extremes, but it can feel very satisfying at the end of the day to have accomplished a hard task or met a difficult situation head-on.

8. Adapt To Rather Than Resist ChangeChange is inevitable and is a necessary part of life. The important thing is to be patient with yourself when you are going through change, and to give yourself time to go through the phases of transition. Realize it takes time to let go of the old and embrace the new.

9. Test Your Assumptions
Sometimes in our interactions with other people, we make the most incredible assumptions and act as if they are true. Rather than assuming, it might be worth the risk to ask directly what was meant.

10. Express Your Feelings
Emotions are a natural response to life. It is important to find ways to express your feelings. Journaling your thoughts is one way that can help you clarify what you are feeling. Once you have identified your feelings, you may find it easier to share them with others.

11. Grieve Losses
Sadness and grief are natural and appropriate responses to the losses which we all experience. Grief over the loss of a love one can be very painful and may last for some time. By being kind and allowing ourselves the time to grieve, we have the potential to be stronger than ever

12. Rest
Get a good night’s sleep. Not everyone needs the same amount of sleep, but it should be restful sleep. There are many techniques available to help promote relaxation; or, you might want to check with your doctor rather than assuming your restless sleep is simply something you have to live with.

13. Review Your “Shoulds”If you feel stuck by some things you “should” be doing and aren’t, set a time limit by which you will either have them done or get rid of them. Staying stuck in the middle is a good way to punish yourself and cause mental anguish and stress.

14. Have A Laugh
Nurture your sense of humor, especially about yourself. Trying to see the humorous side of things makes even the most difficult situations easier to bear. Laughter is good medicine. Being too serious limits your ability to enjoy life.

15. Ask For HelpIf you need emotional support or just someone to talk to, don’t be afraid to ask for it. There are times in life when everyone must look outside themselves for comfort and advice. If friends can do the job, ask them to help. If not, be assured that professional help is available through your employee assistance program.

I would like to add a suggestion of my own to the list: Look at art. Even better, create some yourself.

How about you, reader? Anything you'd like to add to the list?


April 7, 2010

Tips for Easing Chronic Pain

Contemplation, I Guess
bas relief painting
Robert Terrell, Lubbock, Texas

Relaxation exercises. Deep breathing, meditation, recalling pleasant memories, progressive muscle relaxation, letting your mind go completely blank, these are all methods for achieving relaxation. For more examples, click here.

Visualization is a powerful relaxation tool. Learn to visualize a peaceful and calming place. This exercise is sometimes called visualizing "special place" or "vacation place." It is especially therapeutic when you use deep breathing tools before you visualize and during.

Pleasurable Activities Choose activities that are pleasureable and take your mind off the pain: listen to music, paint or draw, meet up with an old friend, watch a movie that you associate with good feelings.

Keep a Diary of your pain. Also known as a pain journal. The more aware you are of when the pain intensifies the more in control of the pain you will be. (This will be of value to both you and your doctor.)

Cognitive Skills Try to minimize negative thought patterns. For example if a normal feeling is, "I don't want to do this project." Try changing that to, "I will feel much better when this project is done."

Stop and Rest. Listen to your body when it is telling you that it is tired or in pain. Try to get 7-8 hours of sleep a night and be sure not to over or under sleep.

March 28, 2010

No Umbrella Needed








Turn on your computer, turn up the volume, and allow yourself to be lulled by one of nature's most soothing sounds by clicking here.

RainyMood sound track is a nice accompaniment to my relaxational deep breathing instructions, posted here.


Make it a part of your relaxation or meditation experience. Or turn it on before you go to bed. Relaxing sounds or music at bedtime can often help people overcome insomnia.

And perhaps the best part? No umbrella needed.


How about you, reader?

What sounds in nature do you find soothing?

Do you have a similar site you can share?

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