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"It's never too late to be what you might have been." -George Eliot
February 19, 2024
Grief Resources in Austin and Beyond
September 19, 2023
On Desire in Long Term Relationships
Experiencing the sexual doldrums? Bored? Unmotivated? Waiting for your partner to light the spark? This interview with psychotherapist Esther Perel on sexual desire within a long term relationship might provide insights. Give a listen, here. (Interview by Lewis Howe).
Want more? Take a listen to Esther Perel's TED talk on sexual desire and "erotic intelligence" here. She is an informed and fascinating speaker.
Want more still? Read her book, Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence.
January 19, 2023
New Job? Say Hi with Confidence
Anxiety around introducing yourself at your new job? Ruminating about virtual meeting introductions? First of all, congratulations! You're hired!
Second, help is on the way. Prepare by thinking of these three words: Present, Past, and Future. Read more, here.
Haven't gotten there yet? Tips for finding a new job, here. Cognitive strategy: Give yourself the pep talk you would give your good friend when they are feeling discouraged.
Shout out to Hollie Neujahr, Colorado Physical Therapist, for the linkedIn post, here.
September 21, 2022
Feeling Low? A Pleasant Events List Might Help
For those reading this list for the first time, what is it all about?
When someone is experiencing a sad, down, angry, lonely, or otherwise lowered mood, one tip that can help is to consult your own personal Pleasant Events List.
July 18, 2022
Dreaded Conversations and the Sandwich
Most people don’t take negative feedback lightly and most of us dread giving it. Judith Orloff, M.D. explains one way to offer criticism in the most effective and sensitive way: the sandwich technique. This deliberate strategy lessens the risk of offending.
Orloff suggests that you begin and end your feedback on a positive note. For example, emphasize a positive quality, then express your concern, and last, end the conversation with another compliment. Orloff notes that it’s important to be authentic, stay away from generic people pleasing, and do not, under any circumstances, hand them the kitchen sink (listing every complaint in one sitting). Read more HERE.
February 7, 2022
Mindfulness is the New Black
Like orange is the new black, mindfulness may be the new psychotherapy.
Talking to a licensed therapist can be a critical step to wellness. It can include sharing problems, worries, and yes, those reliable and messy mainstays, family of origin issues. Getting evaluated by a professional can be one of the most important tools for treating anxiety, depression, and other emotional disorders.
Learning cognitive behavioral tools ( CBT ) is another branch on the tree called getting back to wellness. One of the most up-and-coming, state-of-the-art CBT tools is mindfulness. Thirty years ago, when I was walking my dinosaur on my college campus, mindfulness was not echoed in the hallowed halls of learning. I'm not sure it was even a thing back then. But it certainly is now.
Mindfulness is a form of meditation. It is the art and skill of redirecting one's mind away from the everyday thoughts, worries, judgments, and distractions that occupy our brain when it's on auto-pilot. Where are my keys? Did I take the load of laundry out of the dryer? Don't forget to return those pants, pick up that prescription, talk to my professor, get the car inspected. "Monkey mind" is what Dr. Alejandro Junger, M.D., cardiologist, calls collectively, all those pesky thoughts.
For more ideas on how to learn about and practice mindfulness, have a look at Harvard University Medical School's suggestions, here. Because maybe, just maybe, fifteen minutes a day is the new 60 minutes on the couch.
December 10, 2021
Have Yourself a More Relaxed Holiday Season
A typical rationalization and automatic negative thought might sound something like this:
Now go and have yourself a more relaxed, more meaningful holiday season.
Grief Resources in Austin and Beyond
When you need more than your loved ones can provide, there is help. Resources for Grief and Support Groups Compassionate Frie...
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Experiencing the sexual doldrums? Bored? Unmotivated? Waiting for your partner to light the spark? This interview with psychotherapist Esthe...
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In honor of the first day of the fall season, I am re-posting my Pleasant Events List. Those of you who read the previous post will be glad...
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Anxiety around introducing yourself at your new job? Ruminating about virtual meeting introductions? First of all, congratulations! You...