tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16692655884065259292024-03-14T00:51:10.201-05:00blogging behavioral"It's never too late to be what you might have been." -George Eliotblogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comBlogger113125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-47753474100466763092024-02-19T09:00:00.001-06:002024-02-19T09:00:00.344-06:00Grief Resources in Austin and Beyond When you need more than your loved ones can provide, there is help. Resources for Grief and Support Groups Compassionate Friends - National Org.http://www.compassionatefriends.comGrief, Loss, and Recoveryhttp://www.grieflossrecovery.comGriefNet.orgGrief Recovery ~ The Action Program for Moving Beyond Losshttp://www.grief-recovery.comArt blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-13435784267658603042023-09-19T14:06:00.016-05:002023-09-19T14:06:00.139-05:00On Desire in Long Term RelationshipsExperiencing the sexual doldrums? Bored? Unmotivated? Waiting for your partner to light the spark? This interview with psychotherapist Esther Perel on sexual desire within a long term relationship might provide insights. Give a listen, here. (Interview by Lewis Howe). Want more? Take a listen to Esther Perel's TED talk on sexual desire and "erotic intelligence" here. blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-40013114020844820952023-01-19T13:25:00.003-06:002023-01-19T13:25:28.099-06:00New Job? Say Hi with Confidence Anxiety around introducing yourself at your new job? Ruminating about virtual meeting introductions? First of all, congratulations! You're hired! Second, help is on the way. Prepare by thinking of these three words: Present, Past, and Future. Read more, here. Haven't gotten there yet? Tips for finding a new job, here. Cognitive strategy: Give yourself the pep talk you blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-61793169480168265222022-09-21T18:15:00.000-05:002022-09-21T18:15:59.412-05:00Feeling Low? A Pleasant Events List Might HelpIn honor of the first day of the fall season, I am re-posting my Pleasant Events List. Those of you who read the previous post will be glad to see I've made a few changes, out with some of the old and in with some new ideas.
For those reading this list for the first time, what is it all about?
When someone is experiencing a sad, down, angry, lonely, or otherwise lowered mood, one tip blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-6853820085967950622022-07-18T06:00:00.001-05:002022-07-18T06:00:00.172-05:00Dreaded Conversations and the Sandwich
Most people don’t take negative feedback lightly and most of us dread giving it. Judith Orloff, M.D. explains one way to offer criticism in the most effective and sensitive way: the sandwich technique. This deliberate strategy lessens the risk of offending.
Orloff suggests that you begin and end your feedback on a positive note. For example, emphasize a positive quality, then express your blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-44688808954157774692022-02-07T17:17:00.000-06:002022-02-07T17:27:03.570-06:00Mindfulness is the New Black
Like orange is the new black, mindfulness may be the new psychotherapy.
Talking to a licensed therapist can be a critical step to wellness. It can include sharing problems, worries, and yes, those reliable and messy mainstays, family of origin issues. Getting evaluated by a professional can be one of the most important tools for treating anxiety, depression, and other emotional blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-50660527008533688942021-12-10T08:19:00.001-06:002021-12-10T08:19:00.151-06:00Have Yourself a More Relaxed Holiday SeasonMy goal is to post every two weeks at the very minimum. For one reason or another I looked over my blog today. I see that I've gone months in between posts. Months!
Yes, Virginia, even behavioral psychologists fall short of their goals. More often than some of us would like to admit, surely.
Another goal I've set for myself over the past few years has to do blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-15723074798900003342021-11-17T13:00:00.000-06:002021-11-17T13:01:41.569-06:00Stress and Your Work Station
Stress on the job can refer to a toxic supervisor, duties that you dislike, hours that work against your body's natural rhythm, and other complicated factors that aren't solved by a simple fix. There may be a simple fix, however, for end of the day tension and fatique. CBT psychologists recommend that you consider changing posture as a way to better coping with work demands. Howblogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-32480523902569364132021-01-13T16:29:00.008-06:002021-01-13T16:29:49.779-06:00Domestic Violence Resources
If you or someone you care about is the victim of domestic violence, here are a list of resources relating to legal assistance.
blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-19133883189886285132020-11-02T07:30:00.001-06:002020-11-02T07:30:01.301-06:00Hangxiety Ohhhh, the dreaded hangover. Headaches, fatigue, aches, you name it. We've all been there. People are well aware of the physical effects of hangovers, but have you heard of hangover anxiety?
Some call it the "Sunday Scaries" Some attribute it to Mondays. And no, it's not just recalling embarrassing memories of over sharing to that poor girl in the bathroom, or getting up and making a fool of Kendall Bakerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12950629110253182234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-10882582979977091552020-07-04T15:18:00.001-05:002020-07-20T23:33:39.843-05:00Self Care: Y'know It Don't Come Easy
Dr. Laurie Santos shared a fascinating insight on Dax Sheppard's podcast: Expert Armchair.
What you are motivated to get is completely separate from what you're actually going to appreciate once you get it. There is a part of your brain designed for wanting and craving, and another part of your brain that governs liking and satisfaction.
I'll give you some real world examples. Some blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-28844978018941532042020-06-12T12:05:00.003-05:002020-07-20T21:56:35.528-05:00Need Cheering Up? Cheer Up Someone Else
Staying sober is not easy. During their using days, addicts have been using alcohol or drugs to self-medicate chronic unpleasant feelings, physical sensations, and negative self-talk. Some refer to the constant stream of negative self talk as being "stuck in my own head." Alcoholic Anonymous recommends that many addicts commit to helping other addicts as a way of "getting out of my head."
blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-39107273008054808652020-05-01T07:00:00.000-05:002020-05-06T10:16:02.350-05:00Mental Noting in Meditation
Typically, a person's first attempt at meditating is extremely frustrating. The mind wanders, they realize they've become distracted, they try to come back to their breath... Then, their mind wanders off again, maybe for a few minutes, until they realize they've become distracted yet again, and feelings of anger arise. These feelings of anger leave many people feeling defeated.
It's common forKendall Bakerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12950629110253182234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-3999899128217282002020-03-13T15:00:00.000-05:002020-07-20T21:54:48.469-05:00Therapeutic Breathing and Grief Grief is one of the heaviest emotions we can experience. When we are trying to suppress our feelings of sadness and our tears, which we believe we must do on our jobs, at public events, at group gatherings, our grief can present as anxiety and panic.
Intentional breathing, as demonstrated by yoga teacher Max Strom,can help.
For a video on breathing instruction in response to grief using 4-7-8 blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-79217020184293909032020-01-24T05:30:00.000-06:002020-07-20T23:34:51.657-05:00The Quality of Your Thoughts
Marcus was the last Roman emperor of the age of peace and stability (161 to 180 AD).
Listen to Marcus.
blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-18876342606041504482020-01-17T05:23:00.000-06:002020-07-20T11:17:35.954-05:00How the Light Gets Inblogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-70256734820234193982019-10-10T09:57:00.002-05:002019-10-10T10:00:08.058-05:00Food for Feminist Thought
Women who are hostile toward feminism tend to fake more orgasms according to findings in this study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior.
Feminism, by the way, is a belief that women are equal to men, not better than, and not more deserving than men. Equal.
Equal rights.
Equal pay for the same work.
Equal treatment under the law.
And yes, equal enjoyment blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-75331972832138048952019-02-15T08:00:00.000-06:002019-02-15T02:41:15.453-06:00Getting the Most Out of Your Therapy Sessions
Has this happened to you? You're sitting on the couch talking to your therapist. You look up at the clock and see that you've got only five minutes left. How did that happen? You've got so much more to talk about! You leave feeling frustrated that you derailed from something really important.
What to do?
Check out PsychScamp's helpful suggestions for better time management during blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-12833450625003982172019-01-17T13:00:00.000-06:002019-01-17T13:00:06.673-06:00On Relieving Stress We hear so much about stress these days: The effects of stress on our bodies - high blood pressure, headaches - and on our mental state - increased substance abuse, anger outbursts, depression.
Stress management is frequently taught in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). A series of tools that help us to decrease the negative effects of stress, blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-28493734898533159732018-06-29T13:00:00.000-05:002018-06-29T13:00:14.709-05:00The Science of Pain Explored Most people think of pain as a purely physical experience. A hot stove burns my hand, my skin is hurt, my brain sends a pain signal, Ouch! This sensory feeling is but one source, one explanation of pain. The second explanation is the role of emotions in the experience of pain. Fear and example, for example, amplifies the pain signal. If we are worried about our blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-85951654377865977302018-04-02T07:00:00.000-05:002018-04-01T23:43:23.104-05:00Even on the Sidewalks of NYCIn broad daylight, a person can relax and meditate:
For more on-the-street photography, you can visit Brandon's website, Humans of New York. blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-75408220863329390062018-01-07T13:30:00.000-06:002018-01-08T13:58:34.007-06:00Decide Not to Decide
Indecision by Pat Kumicich
It is quite common for people to enter therapy in the midst of a crisis. They want answers.
Is my marriage over?
Cognitive therapy is all about replacement thinking. A cognitive therapist will listen for faulty or dysfunctional thinking patterns that are contributing toward a client's lowered mood, anxiety, anger, or indecision.
And sometimes those blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-2494809106916262042017-10-06T08:37:00.000-05:002018-01-08T14:02:58.373-06:00Beyond Fear
Sandy Andrews, PhD is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Psychotherapist in Austin, Texas
She practices Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT
blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-67773196897616407432017-08-14T12:49:00.004-05:002017-09-14T14:58:11.692-05:00Taking Steps to Overcome Chronic Loneliness
There are many studies that look at loneliness and are finding it is increasingly common and associated with serious health problems. Although social media is designed to connect people (facebook, instagram, twitter, and the like) psychologists and researchers are finding more people are feeling disconnected and lonely than ever.
Cultivating friendships becomes so important as a way blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669265588406525929.post-92183090774525134312017-05-22T07:00:00.000-05:002017-07-31T18:13:29.651-05:00Advice for Grandparents Who Want More Time with their Grandchildren
Yes, even psychologists like to read advice columns. Or at least this one does. My thinking is we need to keep an eye on our competition. Gain a few common sense pointers for those tricky problems that outcome research hasn't studied yet.
My personal favorite is The Washington Post's Carolyn Hax. I like the way she frames her answers. She takes many variables into blogbehavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08965257446041012824noreply@blogger.com